Katherine Burkey Wiens, Dove’s Nest Speaker’s Bureau Member

Recently, I visited with a pastor who needed counsel about how to handle a situation of possible abuse. The pastor’s struggle was whether they should make a report to the state or simply talk with the family about what had happened. Adding to the complexity, clergy are not mandated reporters in the pastor’s state, therefore they are not required by law to report suspected child abuse. The question I posed to this pastor was “Who are you trying to protect in this situation?” 

By Marlene Bogard, Executive Director of Mennonite Women USA and Dove's Nest Speaker's Bureau Member

Don, a jovial man in his 50s, called me to announce, “I quit.” As a congregational mentor, his frustration with the 14-year-old youth with whom he was paired had reached a tipping point. “He shows up late to our meetings, grunts in response to my questions, and doesn’t respect me,” Don complained.

By Melissa Florer-Bixler, Pastor, Raleigh Mennonite Church

During Holy Week, I gather up our flock of children at the front of the sanctuary. “I have a surprise to tell you,” I whisper into the mic, excitement in my eyes. I hand out an envelope to each child. Inside is a piece of paper that says, “He is risen!” On the outside I’ve written the words “Don’t open until Easter.”

By Anna Groff

Joanna De-Moor Tannor (on left) and Amanda Worst are both social workers and mothers. And they’re both passionate about Circle of Grace in their church and families. 

By Anna Groff

When I was a student at a Mennonite high school, there was a succession of male students who publicly disclosed their past “struggles” with pornography in chapel talks. They usually said that through scripture, prayer, and perhaps accountability with other male peers, they overcame the temptation to continue to view pornography.

As a young woman, these disclosures left me unsettled.

By Katherine Burkey Wiens, MEd, LPC and Speaker's Bureau member

Words matter. They have immense power to either encourage or discourage. Words also form images in our minds. When words are used to describe a person or group of people, those words often create specific pictures that influence how others see them. The source of the words also matters. The more influential and important that person is, the more impact his or her words have.

By Anna Groff, executive director 

Victim blaming is so ingrained in our culture that we do it without realizing it. At least we are starting to talk about it more—acknowledging victims are judged based on how they were dressed, if they were drinking, how they acted, etc.

When it comes to children, though, victim blaming is more subtle and harder to address. 

1.  Model healthy boundaries:

• Do not engage in intimate or flirtatious interactions with campers or other staff. Consider how your behaviors may be perceived or misconstrued by others.
• Be modest when changing clothes, in bathrooms, and in swimming areas.
• Be aware of when you are tired, thirsty, or need a break, and take care of yourself. Make sure the campers do too. Most kids are not able to self-regulate well and may lose control of themselves when they become exhausted or overstimulated.
• Children and youth who appear to lack boundaries are often the ones who need boundaries the most.
  

By Jennie Wintermote. Republished with permission from Rejoice! March-May 2018.

“Let the little children come to me, and do not stop them.” Matthew 19:14