Dove's Nest Blog
By Anna Groff, executive director
Victim blaming is so ingrained in our culture that we do it without realizing it. At least we are starting to talk about it more—acknowledging victims are judged based on how they were dressed, if they were drinking, how they acted, etc.
When it comes to children, though, victim blaming is more subtle and harder to address.
1. Model healthy boundaries:
- Do not engage in intimate or flirtatious interactions with campers or other staff. Consider how your behaviors may be perceived or misconstrued by others.
- Be modest when changing clothes, in bathrooms, and in swimming areas.
- Be aware of when you are tired, thirsty, or need a break, and take care of yourself. Make sure the campers do too. Most kids are not able to self-regulate well and may lose control of themselves when they become exhausted or overstimulated.
- Children and youth who appear to lack boundaries are often the ones who need boundaries the most.
“Thank you so much for talking about this,” a teenager at Tabor Mennonite Church said more than once.
I talked with youth, grades 6–12, about pornography at Tabor Mennonite Church in Newton, Kansas, on a Saturday evening in February. The youth discussed the reality of pornography and sexting in society and in their communities. The kids were loved and supported by the adults and youth workers among them as they honestly shared. The time with the youth group was sacred.
April is Child Abuse Prevention Month in the United States. Dove's Nest encourages faith communities to take time during April to consider the plight of abused children and find practical methods to end child abuse and neglect in the communities where they live, work, and worship. Dove's Nest has developed the following resources to assist congregations during Child Abuse Prevention Month 2018.
Adapted from an Oct. 8, 2017, sermon by Connie Zehr at Lowville Mennonite Church in New York
After I graduated high school, I worked in an in-store bakery and would go to work a few hours before the store opened. The butcher also came to work early. After several months, he started showing me pornographic photos and telling me inappropriate stories and trying to kiss me in the freezer or cooler when I had my hands full of boxes.
By John Longhurst, Winnipeg Free Press Faith Page columnist
Like so many others in the U.S. and Canada, I was profoundly moved by Rachael Denhollander’s powerful victim impact statement at the trial of convicted sexual abuser Dr. Larry Nassar.
Dr. Julia Feder is an assistant professor of theology at Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska. Her research focuses on theological anthropology, suffering, and salvation. Her forthcoming book is called Trauma and Salvation: A Theology of Healing. Anna Groff and Julia Feder spoke on Oct. 18. This following Q&A comes out of their conversation: